Should a Husband Take His Wife’s Surname?

–– Paul Schlehlein

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Mark it down as another win for feminism after South Africa’s highest courts recently ruled that a husband can legally take the surname of his wife, overturning a law that once barred them from doing so.

What has long been a common practice in Europe has now made its way to Africa, as the South African Constitutional Court decided that the previous law which only allowed male surnames in marriage, was a “colonial import” and did not promote gender equality. This came after both an Afrikaans and an English husband sued for not being allowed to take their respective wives’ surnames.

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MM 48: “Should the Word ‘Obey’ be in Wedding Vows?”

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First a story. I believe it was Princess Diana who was the first royal bride to omit the word “obey” from her vows when she married Prince Charles in 1981. Their vows were read aloud from the Book of Common Prayer.

Here’s a standard wedding vow from the Church of England: 

“WILT thou have this man to thy wedded husband, to live together after God’s ordinance in the holy estate of Matrimony? Wilt thou obey him, and serve him, love, honour, and keep him, in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all other, keep thee only unto him, so long as ye both shall live?”

She took that word “obey” out. This is very common in our world today. 

Especially with the women’s suffragist movement in the 1920’s in America, vows often now us “love and cherish” in replacement of the word “obey”.

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