Missionary Minds: Van Zyls in Thailand

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Missionary Minds is a series of ten questions with missionaries around the world.

Nico Van Zyl, his wife Roxanne and their son Nicolas, are serving as missionaries in Thailand with Timothy Two Project International. They focus their evangelism, church planting, and leadership training among the Thai people.

Pray for the strenuous process of language learning, that they would persevere until they can speak fluently and teach in Thai and find joy in the process. Also pray for their spiritual growth, their Timothy Two projects in Thailand, India, and Myanmar and for their new church plant, Sovereign Grace Fellowship, constituted in August 2025 with ten members. 

1. Finish the sentence: Do not become a missionary if…

You think you are going to learn a new language and master it in a year or two. You are in it for the long haul. Think about learning a new language as getting a degree or an advanced degree. If we want to do missions effectively, we need to put in time to learn the heart language of the people. This is by far the most difficult thing to do for me and probably one of the most rewarding, I believe, in the end. 

We need to focus on investing time in the local language so we can make the gospel understandable and make sure the locals understand the gospel is not only for Westerners and that they don’t need to learn English to worship God effectively and truly.

That is also why Protestants believed and believe in translating the Bible into local languages. This has escalated since the Reformation and especially since William Carey went to India in 1792.

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An Easy Ten-Step Pattern for Family Worship 

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Christian homes should gather for family worship every morning or evening, if not both. Some don’t know how. 

Below is a guide you may want to follow. By God’s grace, our family accomplishes these ten steps in 30 minutes most mornings.   

1.    Sing a song or two. Distribute hymnbooks if available. Use instruments if you can. Fathers should model singing with gusto. Assign hymnbook collection duties to the smallest children.

2.    Begin with a brief prayer, perhaps by praying a verse like Psalm 67:1, “May God be gracious to us and bless us and make his face to shine upon us, Selah.”

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The Best of Between Two Cultures: 2024

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  6. A Dozen Practical Ways to Evangelize
  7. Seven Ways a Husband Should Protect His Wife
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How Much Counsel Should I Seek From Unsaved Parents?

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Dear Joseph:

In just a few days you’ll turn the corner and find a “W”, “W” meaning both a wedding and a win. They’re equal, are they not? Scripture calls marriage a victory for both the man and the woman, a win for the man because now a helper stands beside him and a crown rests upon him. It’s a win for the woman because in front of her marches a protector, leader and provider. 

You’ve heard about the honeymoon stage of marriage, that section of time when your beloved can do no wrong. In this stage, even her burnt casserole tastes finger-licking good. But in time you’ll discover that marriage takes work, because love is a choice and you’ll not be able to coast through marriage on romantic feelings. Many marriages end in divorce because the feelings end. They forgot that the covenant of marriage is an objective choice, not a subjective feeling. 

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A Dozen Practical Ways to Evangelize 

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The Bible says: “How beautiful are the feet of those who preach the good news” (Rom. 10:15). Scripture commands Christians to tell others about the Gospel of Jesus Christ. Here are a dozen practical ways to do this. 

1. Use Words

Using words to evangelize seems obvious. It is not. St. Francis of Assisi apparently said: “Always give the gospel; if necessary, use words.” This makes no sense.

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How to Teach Your Children Excellence

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Wolfgang Mozart was an Austrian composer who lived in the 18th century. In his short life, he composed over 800 works. When a boy, he was considered a child prodigy, a young man with unusual and exceptional skill. In 1763, when Mozart was seven years old, King Louis XV asked him to play the organ. The time was set for the next day but the king could not wait. Everyone followed the king as he marched to the Royal Chapel to hear the Mozart play. The king was astounded by the beautiful music that came from the young boy.

Though Mozart was not a Christian, he still reflected the truth of Proverbs 22:29. “Do you see a man skilful in his work, he will stand before kings, he will not stand before obscure men.”

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How to Teach Your Children Gratitude

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Puritan William Secker said: “He enjoys much who is thankful for little.” If parents want their children to be happy, they must teach them to be thankful for even the smallest items. “Giving thanks always and for everything to God the Father…” (Eph. 5:20)

Consider the following six ways a parent can teach their children gratitude. 

Guard Your Children from the Victim Mentality

The victim mindset teaches people it is okay to be bitter with the world due to the ways they’ve suffered. The life of Samuel Ajay Crowther illustrates the success one can have when one rejects this worldly mentality. 

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How Early Should Parents Start Teaching Their Children?

–– Paul Schlehlein

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“Train up a child in the way he should go; even when he is old he will not depart from it.” – Proverbs 22:6 

Proverbs 22:6 has two main points: a command and a consequence. The command comes first because if we obey it, we’ll reap good consequences. If we disobey, the consequences are awful. 

The Command to Train Your Child

Here is Solomon’s command: “Train up a child in the way he should go.” He’s talking to educators and teachers, mostly parents. This is somewhat unique because Proverbs is not directed to parents. Primarily, it is written to youth. Proverbs 1:4 states that the purpose of the book is “to give…knowledge and discretion to youth.” Young people naturally struggle to make wise decisions, so God gave the book of Proverbs to help them. 

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Empty Hands on Empty Heads? A Case for the Formal Ordination of Elders

–– Paul Schlehlein

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The Indian natives begged their mentor to change his mind. He did.

Born in 1790, Karl Rhenius was a German missionary of the Church Missionary Society (CMS). Joseph Wolff, the famed “missionary to the world”, called Rhenius “the greatest missionary that has ever appeared in the Protestant Church.”

Rhenius served as a missionary in India for 48 years with no break for furlough. He helped establish over one hundred local Christian schools and was instrumental in thousands of Hindus coming to Christ. He succeeded in Bible translation work and spoke Tamil fluently. His friends saw him as cheerful, tough, intelligent, and totally consecrated to Christ.

His strategy was simple. Send out trained Indian disciples to preach and distribute literature. If they found interest in the village, they’d start a small elementary school. As schools grew, conversions followed and the new Christians were gathered into local fellowships.

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Choose Your Love: Steps for Young Men in Finding a Wife

–– Paul Schlehlein

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For centuries breeders have tried to predict the fastest racehorses. Secretariat, a thoroughbred that won the 9th American Triple Crown, is considered by many to be the greatest racehorse of all time. He set and still holds the fastest time in all three Triple Crown races. The average thoroughbred’s heart weighs almost 4 kg. Secretariat’s heart weighed nearly three times that. For some years now, yearlings have been selected on the basis of heart size, as judged by ultrasound measurements.  

We can also predict the weather. The old adage is often true. “Red sky at night, sailor’s delight. Red sky in morning, sailors take warning.” Jesus said a similar thing in Matthew 16:2-3: “When it is evening, you say, ‘It will be fair weather, for the sky is red.’ And in the morning, ‘It will be stormy today, for the sky is read and threatening.’”

But forecasting the weather and fast racehorses seems somewhat trivial compared to predicting who will make a godly wife. Every Christian man wants to wed a virtuous woman, but how can he know? Is it possible for a man to predict who will be a godly wife?

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Biblical Counsel on Marital Engagement | Part 1

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By the time Maria Dyer agreed to marry Hudson Taylor, two other ladies had already rejected his marriage proposals.

The soon-to-be-great missionary had recently arrived in China when he fell in love with the squinty-eyed Maria. She was young and her parents were dead. A group of English missionaries—one of whom was an old maid—had watch care over her.

When word got out of his letter proposing marriage to Maria, they were disgusted. “The nerve…!” Maria was a lady. Taylor was a young, poor, unconnected Nobody. She was proper. He was no gentleman, without a sufficient education and without position. She was tall. He was short, a “ranter”, a Plymouth Brethren. Worst all, he wore Chinese clothes and a long pigtail like his Asian neighbours. Marriage? Maria’s guardians wanted Taylor horse-whipped.

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“I’m Wealthy and Interested in Missions. Should I Go or Stay?”

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The Dentist Leaves It All

The year was 1825. Anthony Norris Groves, an Englishman, was living what we might call “the American Dream.”

At 30 years old he had a beautiful wife, three healthy children and a flourishing career as a dentist. But the call to missions would not vacate his mind. After ten years of pleading and praying with his wife, the Groves family surrendered to missions. Mary finally submitted to give their all for Great Commission work around the world.

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Seven Ways A Husband Should Protect His Wife

–– Paul Schlehlein

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One of the central roles to which God calls men is to protect women.

Husbands and fathers should protect their families spiritually. God told “the man” not to eat from the tree of the knowledge of good and evil” (Gn. 3:17) but he failed to protect his wife from the serpent who induced her to sin (Gn. 3:6). This is why the Adam was ultimately responsible for Eve’s sin (Rm. 5:20).

Husbands and fathers should their families physically and emotionally. Men should be willing to die for their wives, not the other way around. Christ laid down his life for his bride (Eph. 5:25), similar to how husbands should give up themselves for their wives.

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Dos and Don’ts: Fathers, Sons and Talking about Sex

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Normal Rockwell’s famous painting of a father talking to his son about the birds and the bees represents the way most men feel regarding talking about sex. In the painting, the son is embarrassed out of his mind. The father, while trying to be diplomatic and scientific, feels awkward and inadequate. The picture makes us cringe. 

But it doesn’t have to be this way. Solomon lived thousands of years before Rockwell. He taught his sons about sex with such skill and warmth that his words are still being read today. 

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Six Lessons I Learned from My Trip to the Darkest Region in Sub-Saharan Africa

– Paul Schlehlein

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We thank those who prayed for us during our latest missionary survey trip. It was successful in every way, all of this due to God’s grace and the prayers of his saints. Here are six brief lessons I learned. 

God’s People Are Everywhere

They may be few but in some of the smallest, most remote places we met believers and church leaders who bowed the knee only to King Jesus. 

We are tempted to think like Elijah: “I, even I only, am left a prophet of the Lord” (1 Kings 18:22). 

But God has his remnant. We sat down in covert rooms and spoke in hushed voices with believers who were thirsty for God’s Word. Floating in a sea of pagan darkness, they continued to read their Bibles and preach, despite the danger, despite the discouragement. 

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Hope for Single Moms

– Paul Schlehlein

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As the family goes, so goes society. As the father goes, so goes the family. God made fathers the leaders of the home. They lead, provide and protect.

God chose Abraham, not his wife Sarah, to command his children to obey the Bible and do right (Gn. 18:19). The Psalmist urges fathers not to hide the truth from their children (Ps. 78:3-6). Ephesians 6:4 implores fathers to teach their children early and often.

So what are mothers to do when they have children but no father at home? This is not unusual. Almost a quarter of children under the age of 18 in the US live with one parent. Nearly a third of women in Sub-Sahara Africa between the ages of 18-60 are single with children in the household. 

Maybe her husband died, or took off, or is gone all the time for work? What hope do single mothers have that their children will end up godly? Where can they go for confidence that their children can thrive in adulthood?

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Why the Difficulty of a Foreign Language Shouldn’t Deter Missions

Here is a common joke I’ve heard outside the US. The speaker of two languages is called bilingual, the speaker of three languages is called trilingual, and the speaker of one language is called an American.

It’s harder to learn a language for some citizens compared to others. I’ve found that my African brothers are far more skilled at learning foreign languages than I, in part because they’ve grown up around multiple tongues.

But learn the language we must if we want to reach lost people groups for Christ. This is because the gospel comes through words. Paul told the Thessalonians that the gospel came to them “in word” (1Th. 1:5).

The good news doesn’t come through dreams (Heb. 1:1-2) or declarations from the sky or the supernatural gift of speaking in tongues. I would be all too happy to board a plane, land among the millions of Sunni Muslim Yao in Malawi and suddenly preach to them flawlessly in their language which I had previously not known. That gift occurred in the early days of the church and the book of Acts. But it doesn’t work that way today. Reaching the unreached starts with vocab cards, not visions. Continue reading

Three Words for Husbands Whose Wives Won’t Escort Them to the Mission Field

– Paul Schlehlein

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Imagine this. Simon hears a Sunday sermon from a missionary who works in northern Africa. The preaching cuts him deeply. His eyes water. He gets to dreaming. He senses God is calling him into missions. He tells his wife. She smiles politely. He goes to seminary. He reads missionary bios. He tacks maps on his bedroom wall. He takes survey trips. He’s all in.

Years later he’s ready to go. As he pulls up the tent spikes at home, he discovers his wife’s roots have only run deeper. She can’t leave her parents. She can’t homeschool in a foreign land. She can’t take the heat. She’s not going. Simon is crushed. What should he do?

This is a difficult matter that is not all that unusual in missions. It’s happened more than one might expect. Here are three words that Simon should embrace.

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What Should a Couple Do If Their Parents Disapprove Their Marriage?

– Paul Schlehlein

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When we consider a question like this, our first question should be: “Is this union honoring to God?” This is not the same question as: “Is this union honoring to my parents?” The two are often the same, but not always. 

Here are five marks of forming a marriage that God approves. 

(1) Conversion. Only a Christian may marry a Christian (2Cor. 6:14). God forbids inter-faith marriage (1Cor. 7:39), which only leads to heartache (Ex. 34:16). 

(2) Consent. Forced marriage is not marriage. Adam left his parents to cleave to his wife, showing volition. He came to her, showing it was not by force (Gn. 2:24). 

(3) Character. The bride and groom should share the same spiritual vibrancy. One may be more spiritually mature than the other but too great a divide will hamper the marriage. “Can two walk together except they be agreed” (Amos 3:3)? 

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Six Marks of a Good Missionary Newsletter

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Missionary newsletters (sometimes called Updates or Prayer Letters) help missionaries communicate with their sending churches and individual supporters back home. The purpose of these letters is to inform Christians about the details of the ministry so that they can pray for and support the missionary responsibly. Many of St. Paul’s epistles were first-century examples of missionary updates.

We as missionaries must improve our writing skills. I’ve read many bad prayer letters from missionaries. A handful are average and a select few are excellent. A quarter of them I wish would end after the first two sentences.

I understand this is somewhat subjective. What is good for one may be bad for another. I know there are different tastes. There is no Mosaic Prayer Letter Manual that Sinai insists we follow, though the writings of Missionary Paul are a good start.

I have no axe to grind. I’m pro missions. I’ve been a missionary for almost two decades. When it comes to missions, I’m like the mother who attends her son’s sporting events–pompoms, face paint, team jersey. I’m all in.

While some newsletters are like Rachel, beautiful to behold, others are like Leah, plain and lacking vitality. I’ve read newsletters with over 3,000 words–equal to nine pages in a typical book. I’ve read other letters with scores of photos, including vacation pics, birthday parties and lots of cutsie photos of the kiddos–more man-centered than Christ exalting.

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Six Excuses Parents Use for Not Disciplining Their Children

– Paul Schlehlein

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Parenting is difficult. Disciplining proves even harder. Many of the best of men and women have failed at parenting. Abraham alienated his son Ishmael. Jacob rebelled against Isaac. The sons of King David tried to kill their father. Church History verifies parenting is difficult as well. Take William Carey for example.

As the Father of Modern Missions, he excelled. But as the father of several children, he struggled, at least in the beginning. While he labored at translation work in India and battled with his wife’s mental illness, his sons spiralled out of control. Deprived of their mother’s love, his sons Felix and William seemed uncontrollably self-willed. Carey tried. He improved later in life and earned the highest love and respect from his children. But it wasn’t Carey that turned his sons around. 

William Ward, Carey’s teammate in India, took much of the spiritual care for Carey’s kids in their youth. Ward feared the Carey boys would break away from their Christian moorings. So he discipled them. He walked with them. They sang together. They spoke of spiritual matters. Carey poured gratitude upon his friend Ward, but it was Carey’s job to do. 

This illustrates the difficulty parents find in disciplining their children. Here are six common excuses they use.

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Why Does God Take So Many Missionaries in Their Prime?

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Many Christian men and women have died early. Too soon, some would say. They were great. They were young. The examples in Scripture and Church History are endless.

Abel obeyed God but was murdered by his brother. Stephen was stoned mid-sermon. Our Lord was crucified at 33. Most of the apostles died soon after the death of their Savior.

Clement, early defender of the faith, had an anchor tied around his throat and was thrown overboard. Cyprian was beheaded. Chrysostom, in the heyday of his preaching ministry, was force-marched to death. William Tyndale, amidst translating the Bible, was burnt at the stake.

Matthew Henry died before he could finish his commentary. David Brainerd died of tuberculosis at 29 while doing missionary work among the Indians. Jerusha Edwards, daughter of Jonathan and caretaker of Brainerd, died soon after at 17.

The Lord took Robert Murray M’Cheyne to Heaven at age 29. Henry Martyn, having spent years learning Middle Eastern languages, expired at age 32. John Paton’s wife was only nineteen when she left all to reach the cannibals. She died just months later. James Gilmore was just hitting his stride in Mongolia when he died at 47. The Auca Indians speared to death Jim Elliot was he was only 28. Continue reading

Four Humble Ways Missionaries Can Make Disciples

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Anthony Norris Groves is one of the great missionaries in Church history. Most of Christendom has never heard of him.

His first missionary stint was a “failure” to the Arabic-speaking Muslims in Baghdad, Iraq. He began there in 1829 and left just a few years later. His wife died there. So did his infant daughter. Floods, famine, plagues and war pounded relentlessly upon the little mission team. He moved to India.

God had not given Groves many natural gifts for ministry success. He was a dentist by trade and was not a natural street preacher. He lacked the passion and oratory skills that often drive evangelists to far-away lands.

But he accomplished much. Among his greatest feats was training John Arulappan (1810-1867), a promising young Indian Christian that had grown up in one of the missionary schools. He mentored John for almost 20 years and through him Groves saw innumerable churches planted and people won to Christ. What was the secret?

The answer, in part, can be found in the following quote from Groves:

“It would be desirable for every evangelist [i.e. missionary] to take with him wherever he went from two to six native catechists, with whom he might eat, drink and sleep on his journeys, and to whom he might speak of the things of the kingdom as he sat down and as he rose up, that they might be, in short, prepared for ministry in the way that our dear Master prepared his disciples, by line upon line, precept upon precept, here a little and there a little, as they could bear it, feeling from beginning to end that our place is not to set others to do what we cannot do ourselves.. but that we are rather to be examples of everything we wish to see in our dear brethren.” (p. 478, The Father of Faith Missions, Dann)

From this quote I can find four humble, practical ways missionaries can make disciples.

  1. Keep the Roots Shallow

Groves referred to himself as an “evangelist” or missionary. He resisted the urge to become a kind of extended pastor on the foreign field. He knew his role was foundation-building like Paul did in Romans 15. The Apostle often carried responsibilities of a pastor but never used the title “elder” for himself—though Peter did (1Pt. 5:1). Paul poured the footings, then moved on, periodically returning from time to time to visit.

The natives on the New Hebrides referred to John Paton as “Missi”, an abbreviated form of missionary. As far as I can tell, nowhere in his 500-page autobiography does he use the title of pastor when serving as a missionary.

Linguistic precision like this goes a long way toward missionary disciples. It says, “You’re up next.” It says, “I’m moving on.” It says, “I’m not the running back. I’m the QB that hands off the ball so that you can score.” Continue reading

MM 57: How Can I Make My Parents Happy?

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First a story. I’ve always been close with my own father and growing up he was my best friend. I even considered making him the best man in my wedding. I don’t get to see him too often these days. As a missionary, I’ve left my homeland, which has meant leaving my family, so I only get to see him about every four years or so. Our family returned to the US in 2019 and we just finished our latest furlough here in 2023. It was so great to see my family, especially my father. He drove with me to the airport to drop us off, and I was laughing so hard that I was wiping away the tears and feared I might get in an accident. Among my favorite things in life…laughing with my Dad.

This time with my father has made me reflect upon Proverbs 10:1. “A wise son makes a glad father, but a foolish son is a sorrow to his mother.” Even though I am an adult and have children of my own, I still want to please my father. I do not want to bring tears to my mother. I thought it would be a good idea today to unpack this verse and give some practical ways we can obey it.

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MM 48: “Should the Word ‘Obey’ be in Wedding Vows?”

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First a story. I believe it was Princess Diana who was the first royal bride to omit the word “obey” from her vows when she married Prince Charles in 1981. Their vows were read aloud from the Book of Common Prayer.

Here’s a standard wedding vow from the Church of England: 

“WILT thou have this man to thy wedded husband, to live together after God’s ordinance in the holy estate of Matrimony? Wilt thou obey him, and serve him, love, honour, and keep him, in sickness and in health; and, forsaking all other, keep thee only unto him, so long as ye both shall live?”

She took that word “obey” out. This is very common in our world today. 

Especially with the women’s suffragist movement in the 1920’s in America, vows often now us “love and cherish” in replacement of the word “obey”.

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