10 Steps to Finding a Wife: #3 Fish Where There’s Fish

Men go hunting where there’s game. They chase lions in the plains of the Serengeti, not the tundra of Alaska. They stalk moose in Canada, not the Sahara Desert. They search for wildebeest in the veld of South Africa, not the highways of London.

In the same way, young men must look for godly women where they can be found. Eliezer didn’t look for a godly woman in battle or a brothel, at sea, in a desert, or among pagans. Instead, he went to Mesopotamia, a country of likeminded people. And he visited a watering hole, a place where women often gathered (v. 11). 

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10 Steps to Finding a Wife: #2 Pray Biblical Prayers

Young men should not expect to find a good wife if they never ask God for one. Scripture says: “Ask, and it will be given to you” (Mt. 7:7). Abraham’s servant prayed with a specific request that the Lord would lead him to the right wife for Isaac. “O Lord…please grant me success today” (Gen. 24:12). 

Proverbs 19:14 says “a prudent wife is from the Lord”. Good marriages are a gift from God. Therefore, pray and ask him for an understanding wife. Here are five sample prayer requests: 

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How Christians Should Date In Today’s World

–– Matt Floreen

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In today’s African dating scene, many single Christians find themselves caught between cultural expectations, modern pressures, and the timeless call to holiness. From Johannesburg to Lagos, the pursuit of love often feels more like navigating an overcrowded marketplace than building covenant relationships, as this recent article laments. The church has often lacked in providing biblical counsel on how to overcome the challenges. How should single Christians approach the issue of dating and finding a spouse?

Why are single Christians often confused about dating relationships? Here are three reasons:

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Our dating culture needs rescuing too! 

–– Malamulo Chindongo

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Bible-believing Christians share a conviction about the primacy of marriage in God’s purposes. Sadly, such convictions are fading among many professing Christians. God gave us marriage as a gift; it is the very foundation of every society. Marriage lies at the core of every civilization. No group of people can flourish without healthy marriages. The Devil hates marriage, period—why? It is a unique relationship, a covenant between one man and one woman, existing solely for the glory of God. When done right, marriage brings many of God’s blessings to those who engage in it.

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May I Marry Any Christian?

–– Tim Cantrell

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A recent study showed that South Africa is one of only three countries in the world where religious involvement has increased in recent years, with over 85% of the country now claiming some kind of Christianity.  But this raises the immediate question, “What kind of Christianity is it that is growing?  What kind of gospel is being preached?” It also raises pastoral questions such as one I’m asked by young people: 

“May I marry anyone who claims to be a Christian?”   

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